Some of you have asked for tips on raising kids, enlightening the masses how one raises the perfect child. Clearly, this is an impossible task, as some children are pre-determined to be exceptionally bright or athletic. The genetic make up of a child will allow a keen parent to steer them in the best direction.
I’m not an expert on raising children, despite have three of my own. But they’re all well behaved, exceptional students. My eldest took his SATs when he was in 7th grade and scored at a 12th grade level. He’s always at the top of his class, with a near flawless academic career.
My wife and I are very traditional and never use or expose our children to profanity and/or sexually explicit material. Rap music is never played in the car or at home. Most of the time, I am jamming to 18th century classical tunes, mixed in with a little Phillip Glass. We encourage them to read often and take them to Barnes and Noble’s to find new books on a regular basis.
Television content is strictly confined to the Disney channel and other G rated programming.
I feel very strongly about the cancerous nature of the American culture, fixated on gratuitous violence and sex. I do believe, with every ounce of calcium in my bones, that the culture is poisoned on purpose to produce idiots, who will be easily led to slaughter. As a parent, my number one duty is to raise healthy, intelligent children; nothing else is important.
We do everything together and I do not believe in baby sitters. If my wife and I want a night out to theatre or a three star Michelin eatery, our children are watched by family. I find many parents to view their children to be burdens, mere inconveniences, that intrude on their never-ending quest to partake in hedonism, venturing off to nightclubs–behaving like fools.
It’s time for you to grow up and stop wearing shorts, you drunkard jackass. Quit wearing beads around your neck and marring your appearance with ridiculous tattoos and body piercings. That’s not cool.
Cool is building a legacy that you can be proud of in 30 years.
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As usual, well said.
School lunch is also prohibited. It’s poison.
You sir, are a rarity and a class act. I hope that as time marches on, your children have the opportunity to recognize how blessed they are, and to tell you so. I have no children and will have no legacy. I do have tremendous respect for those that dedicate their lives to raising children, and raising them correctly.
You’re too kind.
I am sure my children will fixate on my flaws, as is the habit of all children.
RESPECT to Mrs. Fly as well. I feel like an oaf for not saying so from the get-go…
After a lifetime of, shall we say, living with a very well developed sense of selfinterest, I grew up rapidly and I’m expecting my first kid (a boy) in 3 months…. I’m really looking forward to it and the kid will never be an inconvenience in this house hold…
Let the grand adventure begin!
Good luck.
Everyone goes through a phase of “self-interest” as you so delicately stated. The key is knowing when to grow up that makes the difference.
By growing up, I speak directly to men and women who partake in adultery, putting your pathetic sexual conquests ahead of the lives on your children.
yes, go channel 65 (nick). 2 year old Bordeaux as of yesterday, party today, life is grand when all that is of issue is cupcakes and a cool new wagon with a green handle and purple wheels. And much joy for the new sand toys for the sand boat. Here’s to a money good week. It is a 50 50 deal, stocks will be up or down, I have it down to a simple science, I ask the 4 year old to buy or sell going into EPS. She does better than the darts……
HK
You have a scattered mind.
that’s part of the deal.
You are right on Fly and as you wrote most parents find their kids to be burdens, however, a good number of parents use their kids as objects so they (the parents) can live their lives vicariously through the kid(s).
Sounds like Fly, Jr. took the SAT in conjunction with the Duke Univ.TIP program. If so, my daughter did it for a couple of summers and it was a good experience for her.
She was smart but always had to work hard and did well in school (UVA, NYU stuff).
My son, however, hardly worked at school but excelled in school and in fact turned down an opportunity to play golf at Princeton (people are astounded we didn’t force him to go there) and decided to play golf on a scholarship at an SEC school. He is happy as can be in his life being a college golf coach now and would have been miserable working at a place like GS. Every kid is different.
Up here is Johns Hopkins
40% of American kids are growing up without a dad.
99% of American kids are growing up without a dad like Fly.
I do believe in everything you just said, but I can’t get rid of my shorts. IT’S TOO DAMN HOT DOWN HERE.
I’ve got great calves; I won’t deprive the world of seeing them by covering them up with pants. Long live short-wearers.
Really? Do you have names for them?
I second that, pants are too hot.
“It’s time for you to grow up and stop wearing shorts”
GOLD Jerry GOLD
Gentlemen do not wear shorts.
Somehow my wife and I ended up playing good cop, bad cop to our kids. My wife is the friend to our daughter, and I am her parent, but I’m the friend to our son, while my wife is the parent. The parent disciplines, enforces rules, gives the bad news, while the friend listens, consoles and comforts, advises and suggests.
We never let the kids play off Mom against Dad. If Mom said no, Dad backed her up. We don’t give mixed signals. We set reasonable expectations, but never worried about the small stuff. If daughter wanted to rebel by wearing black lipstick, or son wanted earrings, no problem, its not worth arguing about. Mom and Dad never fought or argued when the kids were around. I spanked my daughter exactly once, for throwing a dish in a restaurant. Never had to do it again.
Our daughter attended daycare from 18 months, while our son spent his early years at Grandma’s house. Daughter was better adapted to being in unfamiliar situations and more comfortable around strangers, but as they grew older there doesn’t seem to be much difference in their attitudes or behavior. But don’t let a boy spend all his time around women or a girl spend her time only around men, unless you want to see some very odd things.
We were blessed with intelligent children that didn’t have to prove anything to us. We never had to warn them about drugs. I cursed only when things were incredibly bad, and I’ve never heard either kid swear. We didn’t put our kids in a position that invited them to challenge us – drinking, staying out late, friends we didn’t approve of. Stuff like that just wasn’t a big deal so the kids never felt like they were getting away with something that would make Mom and Dad really mad. Our kids saw Mom and Dad save, invest carefully, and take care of our possessions, and they developed the same habits.
We took our kids everywhere with us, vacations and travel, dinners, family visits.
But all children are different; some won’t be able to cope with lots of freedom, others will rebel regardless of what you do. Accept that some kids will not get all “A’s”, or be the next president, or the next baseball star. I don’t think there’s universal advice that fits everyone’s situation.
You did well, bozo.
However, I’d never permit an earring on a boy.
Good stuff fly…. Nothing new for all my Indian community friend….give u r best to next gen..sole reasons of reproducing
Jeff Goldblum is the father of us all.
my girl next to me says, you must watch out not to shelter them too much.
However I am biased on the side of the fly and she works for an evil media that owns the news. However the Wall Street J is a mighty fine paper.
regards
Chuck Bennett.
Also, she is likely a whore.
Internet mail order bride without the annoying marriage part would have been my guess. But whore works too.
That’s what makes Chuck awesome.
There is a verse in the Bible that speaks to the topic at hand in a very apt manner. (actually many verses, but I will not digress)
Proverbs 22:6 says “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Now let me parse that for you a moment……The ancient Hebrew of the word “train” is the same verb used to describe pruning a grape vine in a vineyard. The vineyard keeper would go about his business of pruning but also take note of the natural tendency of the vine, observing its natural tendencies before cutting off branches or tying it down in one direction or another. Is it growing to the right or left on the trellis, Is it to thick here or to thin there. That type of thing. It was a thoughtful approach that considered what was being worked with along with the overall plan for his vineyard.
Working within that, he would prune or fashion the vine to serve his purpose and to make it produce at its fullest capability. He did not simply chop off a vine that happened to be growing one way or another but rather shaped it using its natural inclinations to gain the best product.
Recognizing that our children have natural inclinations toward this or that subject or particular interest and then seeking to foster growth in that area is half the battle.
Enjoyed the post. Hope your daughter had a fantastic birthday!
Any thoughts on private vs public schools?
How about the transition from urban to suburban on your kids?
I tried public and very expensive pvt schools .
It truly depends on your neighborhood. If you have a blue collared district, pvt.
If you pay more than 10k in taxes per year, odds are your public schools are adequate.
Pvt is always better, however.
Hope you aren’t insulted. I think of myself similarly as a parent. 2 wonderful kids so far.
Nice Music! I like you Fly and hope you find Christ someday to share with your children.
Nice post Senor. Was in fact raised that very way.
Disney channel?
Pick a random Disney movie that features a child as the main character. Count how many of the original 2 parents are alive after the first 5 minutes.
And don’t ever let anyone under 25 watch PInocchio. The original story is only suited for the 47.5+ crowd, so Disney toned it down some at least.
I cannot believe this is a post from Mr. Fly.
I cannot believe Mr. Fly takes such care of his children.
Good Job Mr Fly.
Donot let your kids visit your site/ post
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Tats are very ‘ in ‘ but not for me. I envision nursing homes of the not-so-distant future loaded with hideous, wrinkled and highly inked creatures.
Shorts only here in the sub-tropic. I quit being uncomfortable in order to ‘ impress others ‘ long ago. Kept a few Hugo Boss and Armani suits for nostalgia.
Nice to see the pic of Leonard Nimoy’s British twin again.
Nonsense. Let’s leave it at that.
What is a “12th grade level” SAT score?
Meaning an average score for a 12th grader, not exceptional for a 12th grader.
Sleep is underratred. My wife is a infant and toddler sleep consultant. She has changed lives by improving kids’ sleep.
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Classic case of ‘do as I say, not as I do’. Eventually your kids are going to grow up and read your blog posts. You realize that, right?
Well put sir!! I feel the same way almost as you do. The average American is well below average. My kids are going to be ass kickers when they grow up!