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A Treu Christmas Gift From Me to You

Before you pop champagne corks into your faces, spray champagne on your

“friends,” smoke your fine Cuban cigars, and celebrate the New Year, here are

some tips on how to work any room like “Dr. Fly.”


Your relationships with others will define your success. Everything in life we

accomplish with or through other people. I’ll help you make sure you don’t mess

it all up. Well, at least not too much.


Let us begin…


After speaking with hundreds of very successful entrepreneurs, there are better

places to network and meet people. The optimal places to go are charity and

nonprofit organizations. That’s the best place to meet people personally and



What do you do when you go to the events? Here is an overall plan and tips you

may consider using.


First, psych yourself up before you go. You can use affirmations or anything that

gets yourself in the right state of mind. You might also visualize that you are

going to an event to meet old friends that you haven’t seen in a while. This can

loosen you up and help reduce any social anxiety.


Start working a room as soon as you arrive. Talk to the valet and the doorman.

These are great people for you to get to know. They know what’s going on, they

can help you out, and they’re underappreciated. This also gets you warmed up

and keeps your energy high. Otherwise, you can start to get self-conscious and

nervous, and then social anxiety really kicks in. Odds are, the longer you wait,

the more unlikely you will be to engage others.


Start right away by asking the doorman what’s up or tell him your name and ask

him his name. Just say, “How’s everything going?” Depending on where you are,

you can greet the hostess or maître d’ next. It’s important to keep engaging

people, even if you just say hi. You can stop and speak with them briefly or just

say something and walk on by.


If you’re at a charity, nonprofit, or networking event, someone at the door will be

checking people in. Stop and make sure your name’s on the list and on their

email list so you can get other invites.


Once you get into a room full of people, start making your way toward the bar, if

there is one, or wherever it’s natural for people to congregate. Doing this keeps

you in the moment and you don’t have time for any social anxiety to come up

because you will be focused on talking to people.


Arriving at the bar is a good time to start a conversation. You can talk to the

bartender or one of the people on either side of you. I always like to learn the

bartender’s name. Then when you come back, you can greet him and he will say

your name back. People around you will think you are a VIP because he or she

knows your name, and they will greet you like an old friend. Also, many

bartenders and event staff eventually move on to other places, so you’ll have

connections in many bars, restaurants, and other places in your city.


The bar is also a comfortable place to start conversations because you have a

real reason to be there. You are ordering a drink (or water) and waiting for the

bartender. If there is no bar, just go wherever the food and beverages are.

So what do you say to people around you? Here are a few ways to start



  • “How’s everything?”
  • “What do you have on the agenda this week/weekend?”
  • “Are you a member of this organization?” If so, ask them about their favorite events or volunteer roles.
  • “I’m really interested in attending some great events and joining some other organizations. Do you have any recommendations?” This question allows you get valuable information. Also, people like to be thought of as experts, and asking opinion questions are a good way to build initial rapport.
  • Soon, you’ll have the option to exchange information with them. Simply offer, “Let’s exchange contact information and stay in touch about upcoming events.” Or “I am gathering a list of events. Let’s exchange information and I’ll send them your way.” Usually, I hand them my phone and they can put the information in faster and also their last name.
  • This process works because 99% of people talk rather than listen. You’re going to stand out by asking questions about the other person first and taking a genuine interest. A great byproduct is that you leave the conversation with a little mystery around you—people are intrigued to learn more about you.


A conversation is simple: start it, engage the other person and build rapport,

keep it going for few minutes, and then leave them thinking you are great person

that they want to get to know better. It really just boils down to that.

Here are couple more important things to keep in mind…


Remember, your confidence level and how you deliver information greatly

outweighs what you say. A common mistake people make is placing too much

importance on what to say. This can make someone sound scripted.


Nonverbal cues, body language, and physical positioning all impact how we are

perceived by others. You have one opportunity to make a first impression and

build strong rapport when you meet someone. You do not have time to waste in

your face-to-face interactions. You need to quickly understand what someone

else is really feeling and thinking and how you can influence them—something

you have control over if you have control over your body language, nonverbal

cues, and expressions.


Also, don’t talk to people for more than five minutes at a time. Why? Here are a

few reasons:


  • You will meet more people and therefore practice your social skills. Social skills are learned behaviors, so the more you practice, the better you will get.
  • You can worry less about what to talk about because you can ask a few quick questions and move on.
  • You don’t invest so much time in people that you end up missing out on other people in the room that may be better suited for you.


Finally if your conversation is around business, make sure to focus on what you

can do to help the other person. Since most people are concerned with their own

personal gain, you’ll quickly stand out. Start asking them questions about what

they need, and you will quickly find out how you can help them. Albert Einstein

once said, “Strive not to be a person of success, but a person of value.”


You can ask them, “What current challenges are you dealing with in your job (or

company)?” Finally say, “How can I help you?” or “What can I do this minute to

help you?” Then, write yourself a quick note about what is it, exchange contact

information, and follow up within 24 hours. You might not be able to help them or

provide them with a contact. Just tell them you tried—it will go a long way. I’d

also come up with another potential way you could help them and see if that is of



So it’s time to take action in 2015, and make it your best year ever. Have a great

rest of your holiday season, and drink your fine whiskey and eggnog.

You can read more on my blog, and check out my #1 bestselling book, Social

Wealth, on Amazon.




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  1. Marc David


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  2. Bullish

    Great post! I’ll be reading your blog.

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  3. Geezer

    I liked the article so much that I bought the book on amazon!

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    • alf44


      … I didn’t really care for the article much at all !!!


      It did however inspire me to GO and stir up another Wild Turkey 101 and Eggnog !

      And for that, Jason …

      Thank you and Merry Christmas !!!


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  4. budh

    When confronted with such people I always ask,, “Who is this pesky fool?” the person next to me. It gives an opportunity for bonding with someone really important.

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  5. ironbird

    Horseshit for retards. Why is this on Ibankcoin? Next time around strangers i will surely creep them the fuck out with choice lines given. WTF.

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  6. No One

    Jason Treu…

    Well I’ll be damned.

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  7. Skillz

    I think these tips are helpful to attract women, aside from business opportunities.

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  8. Dr Fly


    Please go look at Jason’s first post on ibankcoin and what resulted as the funniest comments section ever. You’re all savages

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  9. The Chart Addict

    Holy horse nuts, it’s Jason!!!! Consult him for the finest things in life.

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  10. Scooter

    Still have the Invicta Diving watch- what a conversation starter- WTF ROFL

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  11. spydercrusher

    If people took the time to read this carefully, they’d see it was a great post. Nice write-up Jason.

    If you think the ability to relate to random people you don’t know for the purposes of networking, business, or meeting women isn’t a skillset that takes practice, you’re deluding yourself. Only thing missing — pocket squares.

    Plus, it’s fun to just go and bullshit with strangers whether motive based or not.

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  12. ottnott

    Important missing advice:
    Get there early so there are plenty of empty seats for placing whoopie cushions.

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